Oct 19 2014
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Oct 19 2014
Hi Res
hugsndrugz:

spankmeagainplease:

Feel free to sexually harass me if you’re male. You know what they say “Boys will be boys.”. Although I’m not sure any of you will want to do that since I’m not very modest, therefore not attractive.--------The new principal at my school used two phrases while addressing new dress code rules to a class."Modest is hottest." and "Boys will be boys."He should have said something more along the lines of: “The school dress code was established to provide our students with a safe and orderly learning environment that is free from distractions.”Let’s start with the phrase “Modest is hottest.” Shall we?Modest-Having or showing a moderate estimation of one’s own talents, abilities, and value.If modest is hottest, then it’s not modest.You are literally sending the message to young girls, who are already struggling with self confidence, that hiding their body makes them more attractive. You are establishing a sense of shame in these young, developing minds and bodies. A human has the right to wear whatever they feel comfortable in. Showing less skin doesn’t make you any more attractive. Showing more skin does not make you any less attractive. When someone calls you attractive that just means that they are attracted to you.At what point in your career did you find it appropriate to define my “hotness”? Why are you at all concerned with how “hot” I am? You are teaching us, through modesty, to be objects of sexual arousal. I’m sorry, but I don’t dress myself to look “hot” for anyone. I dress myself as a way of expressing myself and my body. “If covering up my body is supposed to make people sexually/physically attracted to me, then how would those people feel if I decide to have sexual relations with them, without clothes on?” “How am I supposed to love and feel proud of my naked body and develop a sense of sexuality when exposing my body is deemed shameful and unattractive?” Since when should being “hot” be my concern. I don’t want to be with someone who just thinks I’m hot. I want to be with someone who loves and respects all the parts of my mind, personality, and body. THAT’S what you should be teaching, not “How to be hot.”.My body is not a sinful temptation that needs to be hidden. My body is not your personal, sexual object. My body does not overshadow my character. My body is not any more sexual than a man’s body. My body is not here to look “hot” for you.Next up is “Boys will be boys.”Being a boy refers to your gender. That’s all.It does not make you constantly sexually aroused, animalistic, or sexually uncontrollable, but for some reason society has come to the conclusion that you are this stereotype. This is extremely sad. This gender stereotype is unfair to all men. By telling them who they are as a man you are absolutely taking away their moral agency. “But he’s a teenager. He’s raging with hormones.” You don’t think I’m raging with hormones as well? Believe me I am. Men are not stupid. They are not unable to see when someone is not consenting to sex. It’s not ‘in their nature’ to rape because they are a man, it’s not ‘in their nature’ because IT’S WRONG TO RAPE SOMEONE. Raping someone is a cognitive choice. (how modestly the victim dresses does not affect them being raped). When the few people that do sexually harass people happen to be male and you use the excuse “Boys will be boys.” you are not only excusing their behavior, you are condoning it. It’s this “Boys will be boys.” mentality, culture, and attitude that condone sexual assault. Whenever the excuse “Boys will be boys.” is used, it’s just an exercise of male privilege. It’s this attitude that condones sexual assault. You are giving them a free license that makes it okay for them to be sexually violent, that says “Well I’m a boy, it’s just who I am.” Sex needs to stop being about “no no no bad dirty gross shameful” and start being about “Yes. Let’s have consenting sex because I want to.” Consent. THAT’S what you should be teaching, not “Well you know how they are… Boys will be boys!” Boys are not sexually uncontrollable.Boys do not have a genetic, animalistic, violent nature.Boys are not born with a natural desire for destruction or control.Despite what society and culture keeps trying to cram down everyone’s throat, having a penis doesn’t make it okay to sexually harass someone. The false idea that men can’t control themselves is so unfair and completely ridiculous.


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The next day He called me down to his office to discuss my concerns. (Students and teachers told him about it, which I expected)




I spent a good hour and a half arguing with the principle about his comments when he called me down to his office, today. I offered to send him what I posted if he was interested in reading it. He said “No, that won’t be necessary.” I explained to him that I wanted him to read what I wrote and I would appreciate it if he did. He said “No, I don’t really care to read it. That’s okay.”I asked him what he meant by the phrase “boys will be boys” and he explained that if a girl is inappropriately dressed that it can lead to inappropriate, sexual touching and staring (sexual harassment). If a boy chooses to sexually harass someone, it’s his choice no matter what his gender is.He explained to me that boys are more “wound up” than girls are. I didn’t quite understand what he meant by that so I asked him for a different adjective and after a minute of mumbling he chose the word “aggressive” but then followed that up with “…well I don’t think that’s the correct word to use…”. I agree, not the best word to use, eh? I asked him to explain why boys are different than girls in this regard and he said “Well to start, all boys are attracted to girls…” I interrupted with “No. There are actually boys who are attracted to other boys.” He laughed and said “Oh, yes of course!”… I guess that part must have slipped his mind.I asked him, in general, what the difference is between girls and boys. He said that boys “misbehave more” and are “outgoing”. He said that girls are “reserved”. That’s all. That’s the word he used, “reserved”. Boys and girls are different because they have different organs and hormones. Being a girl doesn’t automatically make me reserved. Just like being a boy doesn’t make you automatically misbehave. I explained to him that by using the phrase “Boys will be boys.”, he is excusing and condoning bad behavior from boys, such as sexual harassment and rape. “But that’s not reality, that’s your opinion.” he said. He explained that his daughters “behave” and that his nephews were disrespectful… because they are boys. I said “That has nothing to do with their gender. They act that way because of how they were raised, the environment they are living in, and the choices they make.” I told him that the phrases he used were sexist and stereotypical and unfair to all genders. I explained to him that many students and people of society were offended by what he said and the phrases he used. I told him that I thought he should apologize for what he said and explain to students and society that this kind of message is not okay or appropriate.He said he wouldn’t apologize for that, but he would give me an apology, which was “I’m sorry you feel that way.” After he dodged almost every question I asked by sharing his plans to improve LHS, he decided that he had had enough of not being able to answer my questions or concerns and ended our discussion by saying “I’m going to end this discussion.” and I was sent back to class.




Yes. This needs to go viral.

hugsndrugz:

spankmeagainplease:

Feel free to sexually harass me if you’re male. You know what they say “Boys will be boys.”. Although I’m not sure any of you will want to do that since I’m not very modest, therefore not attractive.
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The new principal at my school used two phrases while addressing new dress code rules to a class.

"Modest is hottest." and "Boys will be boys."

He should have said something more along the lines of: “The school dress code was established to provide our students with a safe and orderly learning environment that is free from distractions.”

Let’s start with the phrase “Modest is hottest.” Shall we?

Modest-Having or showing a moderate estimation of one’s own talents, abilities, and value.

If modest is hottest, then it’s not modest.

You are literally sending the message to young girls, who are already struggling with self confidence, that hiding their body makes them more attractive. You are establishing a sense of shame in these young, developing minds and bodies. A human has the right to wear whatever they feel comfortable in. Showing less skin doesn’t make you any more attractive. Showing more skin does not make you any less attractive. When someone calls you attractive that just means that they are attracted to you.

At what point in your career did you find it appropriate to define my “hotness”? Why are you at all concerned with how “hot” I am? You are teaching us, through modesty, to be objects of sexual arousal. I’m sorry, but I don’t dress myself to look “hot” for anyone. I dress myself as a way of expressing myself and my body. “If covering up my body is supposed to make people sexually/physically attracted to me, then how would those people feel if I decide to have sexual relations with them, without clothes on?” “How am I supposed to love and feel proud of my naked body and develop a sense of sexuality when exposing my body is deemed shameful and unattractive?” Since when should being “hot” be my concern. I don’t want to be with someone who just thinks I’m hot. I want to be with someone who loves and respects all the parts of my mind, personality, and body. THAT’S what you should be teaching, not “How to be hot.”.

My body is not a sinful temptation that needs to be hidden. 
My body is not your personal, sexual object. 
My body does not overshadow my character. 
My body is not any more sexual than a man’s body. 
My body is not here to look “hot” for you.

Next up is “Boys will be boys.”

Being a boy refers to your gender. That’s all.

It does not make you constantly sexually aroused, animalistic, or sexually uncontrollable, but for some reason society has come to the conclusion that you are this stereotype. This is extremely sad. This gender stereotype is unfair to all men. By telling them who they are as a man you are absolutely taking away their moral agency. “But he’s a teenager. He’s raging with hormones.” You don’t think I’m raging with hormones as well? Believe me I am. Men are not stupid. They are not unable to see when someone is not consenting to sex. It’s not ‘in their nature’ to rape because they are a man, it’s not ‘in their nature’ because IT’S WRONG TO RAPE SOMEONE. Raping someone is a cognitive choice. (how modestly the victim dresses does not affect them being raped). When the few people that do sexually harass people happen to be male and you use the excuse “Boys will be boys.” you are not only excusing their behavior, you are condoning it. It’s this “Boys will be boys.” mentality, culture, and attitude that condone sexual assault. Whenever the excuse “Boys will be boys.” is used, it’s just an exercise of male privilege. It’s this attitude that condones sexual assault. You are giving them a free license that makes it okay for them to be sexually violent, that says “Well I’m a boy, it’s just who I am.” Sex needs to stop being about “no no no bad dirty gross shameful” and start being about “Yes. Let’s have consenting sex because I want to.” Consent. THAT’S what you should be teaching, not “Well you know how they are… Boys will be boys!” 

Boys are not sexually uncontrollable.
Boys do not have a genetic, animalistic, violent nature.
Boys are not born with a natural desire for destruction or control.

Despite what society and culture keeps trying to cram down everyone’s throat, having a penis doesn’t make it okay to sexually harass someone. The false idea that men can’t control themselves is so unfair and completely ridiculous.
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The next day He called me down to his office to discuss my concerns. (Students and teachers told him about it, which I expected)
I spent a good hour and a half arguing with the principle about his comments when he called me down to his office, today. I offered to send him what I posted if he was interested in reading it. He said “No, that won’t be necessary.” I explained to him that I wanted him to read what I wrote and I would appreciate it if he did. He said “No, I don’t really care to read it. That’s okay.”

I asked him what he meant by the phrase “boys will be boys” and he explained that if a girl is inappropriately dressed that it can lead to inappropriate, sexual touching and staring (sexual harassment). If a boy chooses to sexually harass someone, it’s his choice no matter what his gender is.
He explained to me that boys are more “wound up” than girls are. I didn’t quite understand what he meant by that so I asked him for a different adjective and after a minute of mumbling he chose the word “aggressive” but then followed that up with “…well I don’t think that’s the correct word to use…”. I agree, not the best word to use, eh? 

I asked him to explain why boys are different than girls in this regard and he said “Well to start, all boys are attracted to girls…” I interrupted with “No. There are actually boys who are attracted to other boys.” He laughed and said “Oh, yes of course!”… I guess that part must have slipped his mind.

I asked him, in general, what the difference is between girls and boys. He said that boys “misbehave more” and are “outgoing”. He said that girls are “reserved”. That’s all. That’s the word he used, “reserved”. Boys and girls are different because they have different organs and hormones. Being a girl doesn’t automatically make me reserved. Just like being a boy doesn’t make you automatically misbehave. I explained to him that by using the phrase “Boys will be boys.”, he is excusing and condoning bad behavior from boys, such as sexual harassment and rape. “But that’s not reality, that’s your opinion.” he said. 

He explained that his daughters “behave” and that his nephews were disrespectful… because they are boys. I said “That has nothing to do with their gender. They act that way because of how they were raised, the environment they are living in, and the choices they make.” 

I told him that the phrases he used were sexist and stereotypical and unfair to all genders. I explained to him that many students and people of society were offended by what he said and the phrases he used. I told him that I thought he should apologize for what he said and explain to students and society that this kind of message is not okay or appropriate.

He said he wouldn’t apologize for that, but he would give me an apology, which was “I’m sorry you feel that way.” 

After he dodged almost every question I asked by sharing his plans to improve LHS, he decided that he had had enough of not being able to answer my questions or concerns and ended our discussion by saying “I’m going to end this discussion.” and I was sent back to class.

Yes. This needs to go viral.

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Oct 19 2014
Hi Res
Monkey’s Sunday took a dramatic turn.

Monkey’s Sunday took a dramatic turn.

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Oct 19 2014

floozys:

it’s so weird that men can make endless misogynistic comments and not have to reassure people that they don’t hate women but when women, especially those in the spotlight, talk about things concerning women they feel an overwhelming need to constantly reassure the world that they don’t hate men, that they love men. 

and by weird i mean a cultural norm to demean women and overvalue men. 

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Oct 19 2014

carnivaloftherandom:

takeshihongo:

konkeydongcountry:

brook:

montypla:

Gamer gate has been trying to use Bayonetta as a rallying point, and criticism of it as proof of a “feminist agenda” in reviews

They’ve been trying to get Hideki Kamiya, creator of Bayonetta, to support them

Well, he tweeted this today.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

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the salt is so fucking real

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this needs the highlight of him being pestered by these kids

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Welp.

Amazing.

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Oct 19 2014

rachellesierra:

geekingermany:

kariyote:

Language Maps of the US.

Why wasn’t this the first one I saw!? This is so much more interesting!!

I LOVE THIS I LOVE THIS WOW

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Oct 19 2014
If we think of the douchebag as a social identity as much as an accusation, as a subject with a distinctive persona locatable within the categories of race, class, gender and sexuality, then we find that the term carries a remarkably precise definition.
 
The douchebag is someone — overwhelmingly white, rich, heterosexual males — who insist upon, nay, demand their white male privilege in every possible set and setting.
 
The douchebag is always a white guy. But he is more than that. The douchebag is the demanding 1%, and the far more numerically significant class of white, heterosexist men who ape and aspire to be them. Wall Street guys are douchebags to be sure, but so is anyone looking to cash in on his white male privilege.
 
This narrowness of categorization — perhaps unique in the history of America’s rich history of racial and sexual slurs — is what makes the word douchebag such a potentially useful political tool.

Douchebag: The White Racial Slur We’ve All Been Waiting For — Medium

This is a great, interesting, insightful, long read.

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Oct 19 2014
Oct 19 2014
Hi Res
rhube:

ellakrystina:

webbgirl34:

thebigsisteryouneveraskedfor:

Gisella Perl was forced to work as a doctor in Auschwitz concentration camp during the holocaust.
She was ordered to report ever pregnant women do the physician Dr. Josef Mengele, who would then use the women for cruel experiments (e.g. vivisections) before killing them.
She saved hundreds of women by performing abortions on them before their pregnancy was discovered, without having access to basic medical supplies. She became known as the “Angel of Auschwitz”.
After being rescued from Bergen-Belsen concentration camp she tried to commit suicide, but survived, recovered and kept working as a gynecologist, delivering more than 3000 babies.

I want to nail this to the forehead of every anti-abortionist who uses the word “Holocaust” when talking about legal abortions.

I wrote about a bit of this in that essay on genocidal rape and historical and legislative avoidance of the matter. The one that got the award. These kinds of experiences were typical of the women in the concentration camps, but this is exactly the kind of thing that has been hidden from history because they are not seen as the ‘typical’ experience… which means that it is is not the man’s experience. These sort of stories are considered too womeny and too subjective to be safely reported in ‘objective ’ history. It’s fucking bullshit.

Wow.
I want to see the heart-breaking movie about her.

rhube:

ellakrystina:

webbgirl34:

thebigsisteryouneveraskedfor:

Gisella Perl was forced to work as a doctor in Auschwitz concentration camp during the holocaust.

She was ordered to report ever pregnant women do the physician Dr. Josef Mengele, who would then use the women for cruel experiments (e.g. vivisections) before killing them.

She saved hundreds of women by performing abortions on them before their pregnancy was discovered, without having access to basic medical supplies. She became known as the “Angel of Auschwitz”.

After being rescued from Bergen-Belsen concentration camp she tried to commit suicide, but survived, recovered and kept working as a gynecologist, delivering more than 3000 babies.

I want to nail this to the forehead of every anti-abortionist who uses the word “Holocaust” when talking about legal abortions.

I wrote about a bit of this in that essay on genocidal rape and historical and legislative avoidance of the matter. The one that got the award. These kinds of experiences were typical of the women in the concentration camps, but this is exactly the kind of thing that has been hidden from history because they are not seen as the ‘typical’ experience… which means that it is is not the man’s experience. These sort of stories are considered too womeny and too subjective to be safely reported in ‘objective ’ history. It’s fucking bullshit.

Wow.

I want to see the heart-breaking movie about her.

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Oct 18 2014
Hi Res
At Giant Robot 2 to hear Adam Pfahler talk about Jawbreaker.

At Giant Robot 2 to hear Adam Pfahler talk about Jawbreaker.

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Oct 17 2014

captainamericaisavirgin:

blackzephyrus:

captainamericaisavirgin:

feminism never made me hate men but the reaction to feminism sure as shit did

some men* you literally cannot hate people you’ve never met or even heard of.

oh MY GOD OH MY GOD OHH M Y GOD OH MY GOD OH MY GOD OHHHYM GOD OH MY GOD OH MY OD OOOOOH MY GOD oh MY GOD OH MY GOD OH MY GOD O H MY GO D OH MY GOD O H M Y GO D OH MY GOD OH MY GOD

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Oct 14 2014
just-for-grins:

Awww he fell asleep! 

just-for-grins:

Awww he fell asleep! 

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Oct 14 2014

Anonymous said: I'm not trying to be a jerk, but why are you so worked up over the GamerGate douches? There will always be men who look for any excuse to harass women. It's not right and it needs to be stopped, but it's much larger than GamerGate. I'm not disagreeing with your stance on being anti-harassment....I guess I'm just curious why GamerGate in particular has you so upset? (I hope that's not confrotational....I'm just genuinely curious.)

twiststreet:

It’s not confrontational, Zodiac Killer— I obviously have a very weird dirtbag energy where that stuff is concerned (especially because I don’t want to clutter people’s dashes so I’m always just sort of erupting in “and another thing!" after ingesting a LOT of this stuff, more than I want to admit to).  I guess part of it is having seen it go from the very start because it started at a time when I was looking at twitter a lot to keep up with Ferguson.  And just seeing it go on and on from there, all the times I thought it was finished and it lurched back to life to attack more women like a horror movie slasher… I feel pretty invested just in wanting to see the whole life of the thing…?

Any other world event is too horrifying for words, so it’s a comparatively lower-stakes mental thing, to hide from having to think about cops murdering people or folks getting beheaded.  (And a lot of that stuff, I just can’t talk about as openly for all kinds of different reasons, not least of which is I probably all the time think all kinds of things that young tumblr moppet people would probably find pretty pretty offensive— I mean, I don’t even feel comfortable talking about Gone Girl that much, and that’s a movie about made-up people)

There’s the “the nerds are the bad guys now” part.  Thethe nerds won; oh god yuck" aspect.  Like, I used to wish people liked comics more and now i can’t go to the movies without them all being about dumb-ass Thor or whatever, and people screeching at ladies who give those movies bad reviews, and it’s terrible.  I have a certain fascination with watching people become bullies and justify their behavior with how the “jocks" treated them in high school (p.s. nobody cared they existed in high school)…

There’s some personal stuff— I’ve read some of the victims for years, people they’re attacking based on one whole thing they’ve written.  Or look, I very much know that experience of writing something and having people yell about something that doesn’t resemble what you wrote.  All the cretins who think arguing You As a Person is a vital way of disagreeing with you.  I know specifically what happens if you try to write about how nerdy media trades in sexist imagery and constantly celebrates violence towards women.  So with gamergate, these are people who do something I admire (better than I’d have done it, with a couple of them), getting a very-worst-case nightmare scenario treatment for months. If you write about nerdy crap on the internet, you probably have plenty of moments of “why am I even bothering I should get as far from these fucking people as my little legs will take me" but you dust yourself off and you do it anyways because you’re a weirdo and what else are you going to do, your laundry?   So to see a massive "don’t bother with these gross people fucking run RUN" play out at this scale (and people keep going anyways and refusing to quit) is … hard to describe in words.

And yeah, there’s probably something in there that’s reflecting something about me that I hate about myself.  I’m a person who has hyper-obsessed about nerdy crap in my life, and often has cared more about nerdy nonsense than I do about people’s feelings (and would probably make most of the same choices again because I don’t really have the “making people feel good about themselves is the ultimate thing that matters" parts that normal people probably have). I’m a lousy crappy guy in a lot of ways.  I even get why they don’t like certain kinds of think pieces, because even though I happen to like that kind of think piece quite a bit, I do have a certain suspicion about people who don’t seem very in touch with their own vulnerability. All the internet writing the premise of which is "I’m the good guy now let me tell you cretins how to be more like me"…? All the people who think they’re the Good People— all the hyper-defensive people on the internet who make “not all men" jokes or whatever. Anyways, so I guess some part of me looks at those people and it’s like looking in a circus mirror.   (I think the difference being… For me, finding out how I’m a piece of shit is usually pretty fun because… I’m trying to have a human experience of life, and see getting older as a series of humbling events— I’m not trying to “win” anything, or I’m hoping I’m trying to “win” less, at least.  Whereas those folks are trying to win— they’re on some hero shit…)

I don’t know. Plus, goddamn, those people are grade-a nuts. (There’s a couple folks who I really genuinely no-joke believe should be on some kind of Snowden-y watch list— people who think they’re in the middle of a military operation, like they never 100% came home from Nam and video game journalism ethics is their First Blood Part One or whatever).  I’ve spent no small amount of time in my life gawking at weirdos on the internet and this is some kinda apex, these are the apex predators of internet weirdos.  There’s a Jezebel article explaining how they operate like a hate group and it’s like… Watching a hate movement juxtaposed with, like, video games…?  *video games?* Other instances of men being terrible aren’t going to have that level of ludicrousness to them— they’re just going to be terrible, not terrible and bone-deep ridiculous.  (Especially If you go deep and look at who they are when they’re not gamergating, it’s a whole world of ludicrous sadness, some of these peoples’ lives).  So even though I hate these people, in a very real way— I wish these people bad things in life, I do enjoy it as a confirmation of my overall worldview of the world being a relentlessly absurd place…

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Oct 12 2014

bitchenwitch:

i just realized it’s breast cancer awareness month so here’s a reminder:

don’t donate to susan g komen. they’ve spent TONS of money making sure their upper management can drive pink cars with customized license plates and tried to sue planned parenthood for using the pink…

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Oct 11 2014
Hi Res
Thanks, secret Batgirl Santa! <3

Thanks, secret Batgirl Santa! <3

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